Monday, April 4, 2011

My Children Will Do It Differently

I feel like there are two types of parents.  The kind that truly want to see their children do better than they could have ever accomplished, and actually provide them with the necessary tools to do so; and then the type of parents who have severe jealousy towards their children's successes.

I’m just going to lay it out there – those of you who are jealous of your children?  You’ve been going about this whole parenting thing all wrong.  Without the growth of your children, our society ceases to grow as a whole.  If your child is expected to do things the same exact way that you did things because that is how your parents parents did thing…  Where is the progress?  If your child’s education isn’t important because you did just fine without a college degree…  What message is that sending to your child?

Everything that I do now is all in preparation for raising the family that I hope to have some day.  My working 50 hours on top of pursuing my undergraduate so that I can get my masters in accounting to work another 60+ hour a week job?  That is for those children that I don’t have yet.  The house and the life insurance policy and the savings?  For the children that I don’t have yet.

What are you investing in the future of your legacy?

Our job as adults is to feed into the children around us.  To nurture them with love, praise, and constructive criticism.  The goal of having children should not be to have an extra set of hands, or so that you can force them into the opportunities that you never got to pursue.  Get out there now and pursue the dreams that you have so that your children may have their own dreams.

And even if you had children before you were able to pursue those dreams?  Do NOT take it out on your children.  It is not their fault.  You were blessed with a miracle, and it is your job to let them know that they are just that.  Help them realize their dreams, and be there for them.  You will have plenty of time to create new dreams for yourself once you have taught them how to be the awesome person that they are capable of.

Yes, I know that I don’t have children.  No, I don’t really care about how hard it may be and how I “don’t understand”.  That’s the beauty of having my own blog!  Tough noogies.  Think about it.  Now get to cracking!

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