Since you all are apparently enjoying my self exploration blogs (you sick and twisted people), I’ve decided to make a conscious effort to have better blog topics. Now don’t get me wrong, you will still get the life updates, what I did on the weekend, what movies I am enjoying… But for some unknown reason, people are actually reading this. So I have decided to make an impact with what I have. My words. Deep… I know.
So all of that being said. I have just finished several articles about doing things for yourself and I will go so far as to say that it is necessary to date yourself!
“Nobody will think you’re somebody if you don’t think so yourself.”
African-American proverb
It has recently dawned on me that in the last… 9 years, I have spent a total of maybe 3 months (high estimate) being single. Whenever anyone would ask me what my biggest fear was, I would always respond that it was by far being alone. Why is that?
I think we all know that I have very recently learned that the only person who can make me happy, is me. So why then do we spend so much time trying to make ourselves who someone else would want, as opposed to finding someone who fits us just as we are?
So here is my next challenge and I strongly encourage you all to join me on this one. Date yourself. Take yourself out and get to know who you are. This is something you can do regardless of whether or not you are in a relationship, though I strongly encourage you to explain to your SO if you are in a relationship exactly what it is you are doing. It can only make your relationships better as you learn who it is you are and what you need in a partner.
So here is my plan…
What is my idea of a perfect first date? Once I have the answer for this I will be taking myself out on it. Now I know what you’re thinking, I’m only setting up the next first date for failure but all I’m really doing is ensuring that I’m not settling for anything less than what I deserve. So I will be getting all prettied up and taking myself out on whatever that first date would be. Yes, of course I will be sharing it with you all.
Go on a weekend getaway. I am dedicating a weekend in June to take a trip to the beach by myself. I will eat at all of the restaurants that I choose, read books on the beach and never have to go back to the condo because somebody else is “ready to go”, I will talk to people that I otherwise wouldn’t talk to and I will have a fantastic time being out with myself.
Get to know myself. My goal over the next few months is to build a relationship with myself by getting to know exactly who I am. I will be taking all of the typical questions you would normally ask someone that you are getting to know in a relationship, and making sure that I know the answers to my own questions!
This is just a start for me. I strongly encourage you to read the articles below and take the challenges I am about to face along side of me as I learn how to live fearlessly and love myself like nobody else can.
http://www.cleo.com.au/date_yourself_for_a_while.htm?page=1
http://www.moreofmetolove.com/blogs/entry/have-a-great-relationship-with-yourself/
http://www.stratejoy.com/2011/02/how-to-date-yourself-in-10-ways/
