What makes you happy?

You could never say XYZ (fill in person’s name here) couldn’t make me happy. The person you become when you are with… no, the person you allowed yourself to turn into in your choice of being with this person is who is keeping you from being happy. Yes, I am the queen of run on sentences. I am also the queen of karaoke, getting caught dancing in the car at a red light, and royally sucking at mini golf. These are the things that make me happy.

Knowing that I am a beautiful, intelligent young woman who has her shit together (most days) is what makes me happy. It may not appear like it from your view – but again, you are not the one making me happy.

Who are you to ask me to depend on you? To accuse me of not caring when I can’t openly give you my heart because you have no idea what the value is of what you are asking for!

So let’s talk about the people you fill your life with for a bit. Do these people make you better, or do they just make you feel better? Are they doing neither? Are you of the same value to them as they are to you? Why not?

Yes, I have cut a lot of people out of my life lately. Yes, it may seem excessive, or it may seem irrational, or just completely bitchy. Here is the fact of the matter. I am a nice person. Nice people will get shit on continuously when they allow the people in their lives who are not meeting the above criteria.

Friends should be there to listen, not just to talk. Friends should be there when you are going through something, regardless of whether or not they understand or agree with it. Are you being that type of friend? Are you there for people when they need it, or do you use your friends to vent and to have someone to hang out with when you are lonely but if they are going through something – tough noogies? This is my challenge to you.

Relationships are work. All relationships. Not just your spouse or significant other. I’m challenging everyone to evaluate the relationships in their lives. Once you’re done evaluating, and you feel like you need to clean a little house? That’s okay. Those that make it through? Work on those relationships. Be the person who makes the other person better. Be the best listener and the best friend that you know how to be to those select people that make the cut, and you will have a better group of friends in those select few than you could have ever found in relationships you are not working on.